“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” – Albert Einstein.

If you want to get back together with ex this quote has so much meaning regarding your situation.

The biggest mistake being made today when it comes to couples reconciling either in a marriage or in any other relationship is when they think they can just pick up the relationship where it ended and just pretend that everything is fine again and that nothing happened.

So be before you even attempt to get back together with your ex you need to ask yourself what makes you think that things will be different this time around?

The tough questions need to be answered. Questions like: Was it something you did or maybe both of you did that caused the relationship to fall apart? Did you take too long to resolve your issues? What on your part could you have done to change things?

If you were mainly responsible for the relationship not working out you owe it to yourself and your ex to sort out any problems you had prior to the break up. You need to address whatever personal issues you had before even contemplating wanting to get back together with your ex.  If you don’t take this step chances are the relationship will just follow the same path again.

If you’re ex were the one who had some issues you need to make sure they have taken steps to resolve these issues. If your ex don’t work on their own issues it is conceivable that you will wind up dealing with these issues all over again.

If the issues stem from both of you then the two of you should consider relationship counseling to help you with these issues and ensure you start the new relationship on the right foot.

You really should take this advice to heart especially if you want to avoid future pain and another broken heart. And when you do want to get back together with your ex you clearly still love your ex and you want the relationship to work.

So address the things that caused the relationship to end and stop the cycle of insanity!