You loved your ex. That part you knew. What you did not realize was how much you loved them until now that the relationship is over. So just how do you get your lover back? Well for one thing which may seem obvious at first is that you must at least try to get your ex back.

I say this because it is documented that most of the times a relationship can be salvaged if one of the partners involved at least tried to salvage it. But for some reasons they let their ego get in the way or they feel the mistakes they made is too big an obstacle to overcome.

But if you really want to get your ex lover back you need to put in the effort and at least attempt to win them back.

Here are some steps you can follow to help in your efforts. Use these steps correctly and be prepared to spend enough time on each step. How much time you spend on each step is dependent on your situation and thus you will be the only one able to judge if you did spend enough time on the step your currently on.

Firstly you need to be honest about the kind of relationship you had with your ex lover. Did it fall under an emotional up and down relationship or was it a more stable relationship with the occasional hiccups. This step is important because here you will be able to judge how much time it is going to take to get over the initial breakup.

Whatever category your relationship falls under you must at least cater for a month of alone time. This will be the starting point of the healing process. But once again you will be the only judge according to your situation how much time you use and need here.

Now during the next step you are going to use the alone time to analyze the mistakes you made during the relationship. And more importantly you need to forgive yourself. Before seeking forgiveness from your ex you need to first forgive yourself because that is the only way you can move forward and leave the past behind.

However the above step is not to just forgive and forget. You still need to remember the mistakes you made so that you can avoid future mistakes should you ever be faced with the same situations again.

So how to get your lover back it is important to spend enough time on the above steps. Do not take these steps lightly because sometimes you just need to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. If you do this you will get your emotions in check and if you still want your ex back you can then approach them feeling confident that you are equipped to avoid future mistakes.