So you want to know how to get your guy back? If you are desperate to get him back you need to use a strategy which will not only help you but also ensure that he does not run for cover.

However you must remind yourself that even though you want him back it does not mean he feels the same.  If this is not the first time that the two of you broke off the relationship and your relationship became some sort of breakup / makeup ride then the chances are good that at least one of you are not keen to go for this ride again. And if is not you then the chances are good that he may just feel this way.

So to kick of your strategy you need to have long and hard look at the relationship as a whole. Not just at some parts of the relationship. You need to do this to find out the roots of the problems causing the relationship to go south all the time.

Also do not be afraid to get some outside help. Talk to some friends to help you look at your relationship. If you do talk to your friends tell them straight up that they need to be honest and straightforward about their opinions. You don’t need friends to tell you what you want to hear this will defeat the purpose of getting some outside help in scrutinizing your relationship.

Now secondly you need to start working on a plan to help you get him back. You need a plan so that you can stop yourself from acting on your emotions. If you make emotional decisions this is when you will make things only worse. Also a plan will stop you from begging and pleading to your guy to take you back. This by the way is also a no-no.

Thirdly you need to re-focus your energy and get to a point where you can approach your task of getting him back with calmness and clarity. You will only achieve this state of mind if you occupy yourself either with a new hobby or a new fitness routine. Or anything that you may feel will keep you occupied.

Also use this time to answer the important question of “Why do I want him back?” You need to ask this question because you don’t want to discover down the line that you made a mistake after you got together again.

Only after coming to a conclusion that you still want your guy back you can move on to the next step which is to call him. Just be prepared that when you do call him that he may not be ready to talk to you or even be open to the idea of getting back together. If this does happen do not force the issue but instead tell him that you understand and respect his opinion and that you will give him time to think things through.

So use this strategy if you want to know how to get your guy back. If you use this strategy correctly you will force yourself to find out what the problems in the relationship was as well as get to a point where you will be able to avoid situations where you will make emotional decisions. And probably the most important thing you can take out of this strategy is to get to a stage where you will be able to function calmly and be able to make a rational decision about whether you still want your guy back. Which maybe at this point you will not be able to make?