In your heart and mind you still may find that you are saying to yourself, “I’m still in love with my ex”. Be assured that your situation is not unique.  Countless people still cling to the hope that they can restore the relationship and love they had with their ex. It may feel impossible to do just that but do not lose hope because there is still a chance to get back what you had. And if you want to make it last the second time around you need to ensure that the love you had is stronger than before.

The worse thing that can happen when you are longing to get back with your ex is that when you do get them back the results of the relationship is exactly the same as the first time. And this may conceivably lead to another break up. So it is important to lay a strong foundation for the relationship the second time around.

Here are 4 tips you can use with your foundation building:

1. Analyze the mistakes made during the relationship. Find out why it was made and why it impacted on your relationship. You need to do this because you are basically starting the relationship from scratch. So you need to do things differently and better the second time around. You must have the mantra of “I’m still in love with my ex, so I am going to do it better than before.”

2. Become friends with your ex. You must however take it slow because if your ex suspects you only want to be friends to try and get back together with them they more than likely will be more resistant to the idea.  So just take it slow and let your friendship and relationship grow naturally.

3. Have a positive attitude. You don’t want your ex to view you as a depressing person. You need to show them you moved on and are happy. This will have a better impact on your ex if they decide to get back together with you, because they would rather have someone who is happy and not depressed in their lives.

4. Picture what type of person you would like to be with as well as if your ex would also like to be with such a person. Remember it is human nature to want to be with someone who makes you happy and who makes you feel loved and special. To be with someone who is there for you when you need them. This is the type of person you must strive to become for your ex.

If you follow these tips you will build a foundation where you become valuable to your ex as well as make them feel valuable. And there is no better way to say “I’m still in love with my ex” than by ensuring you have a strong foundation to build your new relationship on and by showing the desire to make it last forever.