I Want My Husband Back – The Crossroad
When your marriage is in trouble you will find yourself standing in front of a crossroad. You need to decide if you are prepared to fight for your marriage or will you let it die a slow and painful death.
If you decide that “I want my husband back” and I am prepared to fight for my marriage here is 5 tips you can use to help you get your marriage back on track.
You must change the way you look at the marriage. You need to realize that whatever the reasons for the marriage crumbling it was not just you or just your husband. It was and is about both of you. So you need to be willing to change the ways you approach the marriage and if you do this your husband might also be willing to do it.
Do not play the blame game. You must avoid trying the put the blame for the marriage falling apart on your shoulders or on your husband’s shoulders. It does not take just one person to make the marriage work and transversely one person to cause it to fall apart. Instead take responsibility for you own actions and mistakes made in the marriage. And by doing this you will encourage your husband by example to do the same.
Find common ground. Analyze your life and look for those things that make you happy and for the things that you are passionate about. Then do the same with your husband and try the find common ground.
Use the common ground you find to your advantage. If you find that thing which brings joy to both of you, you must then find some way where both of you can experience this joy together. To make this work you need to set a stage where it seems like a spontaneous thought as well as make it seem like it is your husband’s idea. And also create some excitement (but not too much) about the things you are going to do together.
Reconnect. While doing these things which both of you find joy in and love to do it is the perfect stage to reconnect with your husband because it is easier to let your feelings be known to someone when having fun. So let him know how much you love, appreciate and miss him. And more importantly let him know that “I want my husband back”. By sharing your feelings you will also invite your husband to share his and now you can find out if he wants the same things as you for the marriage.
You must remember that it will be difficult to get the marriage and relationship back to where it was in the beginning. But life and the future can only get better and if you and your husband are prepared to work on your relationship and marriage you can ensure it is stronger and better than in the beginning. That is what you must believe and work towards.