Just remember that this is just one technique you can use to get your ex too respond to your calls, messages or emails. However you still need to have an overall plan or strategy you can follow if you want to win them back.

Firstly – What NOT to Say!

Usually this falls into two categories which are the Plead and the Emergency. With the Plead you contact your ex and just go on pleading them excessively to please contact you and with the Emergency you fabricate a situation to let it seems that there is an emergency and that your ex must call you immediately.

As you can see for yourself using these two techniques is certainly the wrong way to do it as it will certainly backfire on you. And if you use the Emergency method on a consistent basis you will create for yourself a scenario where your ex will just think you are crying wolf again. And we all know that story.

The Power of Curiosity & Self Interest

Curiosity and self interest is certainly two of the most powerful forces of the human psyche. So you need to combine these two forces together to your advantage. If you do this you will certainly always get your ex to return your communications.

Example:

“Hi, Ben. It is me Jacky. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me and I would like it if you can call me because I would like to thank you in person.”

As you can see in the above example both Curiosity and self interest is being used. Surely Ben won’t resist responding because he would like to know what he did that makes Jacky appreciative. And of course this message is much more positive than the plead or emergency message.

Warning!

Now before you make the call you still need to do some thinking work because you need to figure out what your ex did that you appreciate. It can be something small but it needs at least to be plausible.

As you can see this technique will work for you but it is important to set things up first by figuring out what you are going to say when your ex do contact you. You must do this before you use this technique.

And the most important thing to remember this is only one technique you can use in conjunction with an overall plan or strategy to win your ex back. Because what we want to do is to have long term success and not just hit and runs. And if you use this technique without careful planning you will have success when it comes to your ex returning your calls, messages or emails but it will inevitably be only short term success.

So think things through and get a strategy in place before using this technique.

It is very important to try and keep a positive and confident attitude after a breakup. Well for one thing it may certainly seem like a difficult proposition to act all cheerful and confident but the experts believe that having a confident and positive attitude will definitely help you after a breakup. So here is a few ways showing you how a confident attitude can help you with your question “How do I get my ex back?”

Hold on to your confidence – Use your energy to find some enjoyable things to do which will keep you busy and also happy. You must show you’re ex girlfriend or boyfriend by your demeanor that you are strong and that you are capable of not only handling but also surviving such an emotional situation which a breakup poses.

Do not withdraw yourself but continue to be socially active – Surround yourself with supportive and positive friends. By showing your ex that other people appreciate you and enjoy having you around your ex will soon see you in a new light. This will also put some doubt into your ex because they will soon realize that you are a good person and that they will make a mistake if they let you go.

Uphold a good appearance – By making sure your appearance do not reflect on how you feel and on your situation it will show your ex you are doing fine. Your ex will quickly realize that you will not beg for their sympathy. So it is important to give a lot of thought on your appearance. I know it may seem trivial to worry about your appearance especially after a breakup but you need to communicate your message loud and clear that you are a mature and responsible person, and that is the person you’re ex will get back together with.

By maintaining your confidence or by at least portraying a confident attitude after a breakup you will show your ex you are a strong and mature person and this will surely put some doubts into your ex whether or not they made a mistake. And of course it will also help you by having a confident attitude to get over a breakup if you and your ex can not reconcile after the break up. But hopefully by staying confident after a breakup you will not be asking “How do I get my ex back? “anymore.